Daygame Guide for Nice Guys

Daygame refers to meeting women in the day. If you mastered your approach anxiety, this can basically happen anywhere. The cutest girls often don’t go to the nightclubs, and they aren’t necessarily on dating apps either. But they do go grocery shopping, or to the gym, to work or classes, and to the bank or post office.

The key to doing daygame more regularly is to do it concurrently with your other daily activities and errands. Otherwise, spend a few hours daygaming during the weekend with your wingman.

Daygame Begins – Starting the Conversation

If you want to meet a girl in the day, what do you say to her? You can use a direct or indirect opener. Direct method means that you straight up tell her that you think she’s attractive and that’s the reason why you’re talking to her. For example: “This is random, but I thought you look cute, and I wanted to say hi”. On the other hand, when being indirect, you use basically anything non-related to how attractive she is, as an opening line.

Let’s discuss indirect in more depth. Ask her an opinion about something relevant. For example, if you are shopping ask her for help to decide what to buy (or maybe a gift idea for your niece’s birthday next week). Otherwise cold read something about her. For example, “you look like a tourist”, or a student. Whatever you can improvise on the spot. Look at how she dresses, e.g. crazy hipster style, thus maybe she’s an art student. Or if very formal, then maybe she’s on her lunch from her corporate 9 to 5 job. Don’t over-complicate.

The idea behind cold reading is that you want to make a statement or observation about her, instead of asking something. The nice thing about this is you’re offering value by making a unique observation. While if you ask a question right off the bat e.g. “What are you buying today?”, you’re often setting yourself up for rejection. It can make it appear like you want something from her. Contrast this with e.g. saying: “I can totally tell you have a huge appetite today”, in which case you make a cute observation (and you are offering value instead). Or “You look like a tomato expert, the way you genuinely try to pick the ripest tasty ones out of all of these”. These are cold reads. Think of your own and practice regularly.

For a blend of direct and indirect you could ask a question, e.g. at the fruit shelf: “What type of orange do you prefer?” Then after a second or two once she notices you, follow the question up with a smile and the real reason you’re interrupting her: “Actually, I thought you’re attractive and wanted to say hi”.

Super Direct

What’s nice about being direct is that the girl knows without any uncertainty that you’re sexually interested in her. But what about being super-direct? This totally depends on the environment you’re in. You can ask the girl for sex directly. And I’ve seen direct game coaches encouraging to tell the girl up front “I want to f#ck you”. However, I have to warn you to be very careful with this. I don’t recommend it.

In some countries, the women are more comfortable with sex, and they won’t necessarily mind if you are an attractive guy. But otherwise, you could anger the wrong girl and get bounced from a club. Unless you first spend a while to get to know her.

I’m mentioning this, because during my first year of intense gaming, I got bounced for uncalibrated direct verbal communication. I applied liberal country advice, to a more conservative environment. In hindsight, it was a good (relatively harmless) reference experience, and necessary to help me improve verbal calibration.

But in many cases, there is simply no point in being super direct upfront, if you’re more likely to succeed with normal direct or indirect communication. Because you may screw up interactions, which would otherwise succeed.

Getting in state

If gaming indirect, don’t worry too much if you can’t think of a witty opening line. The more you approach, the more you loosen up. Plus, your tongue gets loose, while your wit sharpens. It’s similar to doing improv comedy. The first challenge is simply to get out of your head. If necessary write off your first few approaches to access a more resourceful state of mind.

Daygame Continues – After the Opener

After opening the girl, there are various other techniques that you can use e.g. negging, qualifying the girl, routines, or cocky & funny humor. But in my own experience, I’ve gotten good results simply by running natural game. Not trying too hard, having a basic flirty conversation. Flirting is a skill worth practicing. If you’re not getting the results you want by running natural spontaneous game, then you can add some techniques and routines. Otherwise work on your style, your conversational skills, get into shape, and improve your confidence. Plus, build state by doing more than one approach and loosening up.

Now we are still at Day 1. You started a conversation, and you are getting to know each other a little while sharing some banter. At some point, you’re gonna want to make a move by asking her phone number.

Number close… When?

You could literally open with a number close. Plus, if you only have 20 seconds to talk with her, definitely go for the number anyway. I’ve gotten numbers very quickly in the past, and some of these numbers have converted into successful dates. For example – Me: “Hey you look cute… ..Where are you from?”, “Oh o.k. I’m heading this way, and you’re going over there. Can I have your phone number?” Her: “OK sure, here…”

Of course, if you talk longer before asking the number, 80% of the time it’s going to be better for you. It helps build a stronger connection, and there’s less chance of her flaking. But more important is to always pull the trigger. Thus always ask her phone number. Unless it’s clear that she isn’t interested. For example, by ignoring you or walking away fast, or telling you off in any other way.

Going on an Instant date

Instead of getting her number and waiting days before you can go on a date with her. Why not cut through the line and simply date her immediately. If you have free time, instead of asking her phone number, ask her to join you there and then for coffee, or another type of drink. If she’s into you and available, she’ll agree. Then treat it as a normal date from there.

Daygame Ends – The follow up

The old school method was to wait 3 or 4 days before you send her the first text message, as to not appear needy. However, nowadays, most seducers send a message the same day, while you are still fresh in her memory. Otherwise, it’s more likely she’ll forget you. There is no need to play games.

Textgame

If she doesn’t join you for an instant date, you’d have to text her. This is called “textgame”. Don’t spend too much time on the texting. The main purpose of texting is to see her again. After a few messages back and forth, ask her out by suggesting e.g. a drink. If she declines a specific date, then ask her when she’s free. Be assertive, you want to know if she is interested: yes or no, without being left with much doubt. But if she’s completely unresponsive, don’t keep on spam texting her. It’ll appear as needy. Find someone else. Sometimes she’ll get back to you in a few days, otherwise, she’s not worth your time.

Day 2

Day 2, is the PUA lingo for meeting her for the first date. It’s basically the second time you see each other, after getting her number. Now you are on a date. You need to know how to behave on a date. It’s definitely a matter of “practice makes perfect”, as well as being confident. Not going into depth in this post, but be sure to make your move.

Daygame – Being High Value

In Daygame, it helps to genuinely have stuff going on in your life. For example, you can do daygame while you’re walking to class or to work. Or even while doing grocery shopping. Having a life demonstrates that you are of High Value and thus a potentially good “mating prospect” to women.

Similarly, if you’re going to the gym, then that’s a DHV (demonstration of high value) because you value your health. You’re studying for a degree – another DHV, as it means you are ambitious. Or maybe you don’t have a degree but you’re heading out to meet your friends in town. Also a DHV – you’re a social guy with friends. Or if you’re heading out to rugby (or basketball) practice, it means you’re a team player, and you’re physically active. You study or work hard? Self-discipline is high value.

I’m sure you can think of a lot more examples of being high value which will convince the girl to want to get to know you better. This also helps you raise your self-perception of your own value, which is good for your self-esteem.

Conclusion

In doing daygame, you now have the skill to meet women any place and at any time. If you’re struggling, ask yourself if you are demonstrating enough value. Or is the only thing going on in your life daygaming for hours every day? At the other extreme, maybe you’re a workaholic in a job you hate. So your conversations may be boring.

Plus, do you dress nicely? And are your values aligned with the type of girl you wanna attract? For example, a woman with a hot body has the value of exercising regularly. Do you even lift bro? You have to cultivate the same values in your own life, which you desire in the women you want to date.

 

How do you feel about daygame? Do you find it more (or less) fun and effective than nightgame and online dating? Comment below with questions or tips for other daygamers.

If you’re looking for more ideas as to where you can meet girls in the day, read our definitive guide to 50 of the best places to meet women.