How to pick up Girls in Hostels

Nowadays most young people stay in hostels while they are traveling. It’s cheap, social, with a lot of free travel advice and activities organized by the hostel staff. If you don’t mind sharing a room with a few other guys (and also girls if it’s a mixed dorm), then you can meet like-minded travelers easily. Moreover, young travelers are more open to meeting new people, hooking up, and doing other fun things which they have less time for if they have an 8 to 5 job.

Different types of hostels

There are different types of hostels, such as large and small, cozy family-run and hotel-type impersonal hostels. In my own experience, the size of the hostels doesn’t matter as much as the quality of the hostel-goers and the type of hostel. For example, in a hostel that encourages mingling, you’re more likely to meet somebody interesting. Avoid the hotel-type hostels where there are barely any communal activities.

Moreover, in the most touristic cities, you’ll meet the highest quality female backpackers. On the other hand, if you’re visiting some shady town in a third world country, safety concerns may keep a lot of attractive girls away.

Other factors include hostels accommodating large student or school groups, as this isn’t ideal. Do you really want to spend your time chasing jailbait who are part of a large group? Even if they’re clearly above legal age, they’re bound by their daily activity program so they can’t easily join you for a drink at night. Other hostels are better for smaller groups of friends and social travelers. In addition, you want to avoid the typical stag hostels, where large groups of guys go to get wasted every night. Here the hostel pub crawls will be 90% male, and not half as much fun as in normal hostels with a 50% male-female ratio.

A benefit of large hostels is that its easier to get away with hooking up unnoticed, potentially also in your dormitory. And maybe even inviting your tinder date over (if it’s against hostel policies then it’s at your own risk). However, in a small hostel, you often have less competition for the same girls than you would have in a large hostel. Keeping in mind that there are more women to choose from in the larger hostels. Thus both small and large hostels can have equal benefits.

However, simply staying in a hostel, isn’t enough. You can be an avid hostel adventurer and never meet any women. It’s up to you to go to the chill areas and start conversations. This will be discussed in the following paragraphs.

 

The golden rule of the (hostel) game

 

Although you can meet cute strangers (and great wingmen) in your hostel dormitory, you’ll want to spend more of your time in the common area. To make the most of your travel experience, follow the golden rule: Don’t do in your dormitory what u could do in the common room. Swiping on tinder? Do it in the common room. Working on your thesis or location independent business? Do it in the common room. Reading a book? Do it in the common room. This is the place where attractive girls come to meet social guys like you.

So you’re sitting in the lounge, or bar, working on your laptop, or reading a book. From the corner of your eye you notice a cutie walking in, she sits a few seats away from you, as not to appear too forward. It’s a social space, she’s not sitting there to fall asleep, or to focus deeply on her book she’s reading, as she could go sleep in her dormitory, or finish the book in her room instead. She also wants to meet people. Say hello, and “Where are you from?”. Start a conversation. If she gives you short answers, without asking you anything in return, then she’s probably not interested. But if she reciprocates your advances by asking you in return where you are from, then she’s interested in you. Keep on talking to her.

At some point, if the conversation is going well, grab a drink from the hostel fridge or at the hostel bar. Otherwise, suggest to go outside for a snack at the café around the corner. If you’re vibing strongly, you could potentially check out each other’s dormitories. Either way, if you don’t hook up with her in the next hour or two, or if she has only a short while to talk with you, say 10 minutes, then make sure you get her social media contact details or phone number. This is crucial. She may have a tourist excursion planned and thus have little time for you right there and then. Thus you can follow up with her later on WhatsApp. Don’t ever leave it to chance that you’d run into her again. It might happen, but if you leave everything to serendipity, then you’re also gonna lose out on some awesome nights and adventures.

 

Be Social

 

Not all interactions will occur in the bar or common room. If you bump into a cute girl in the hallway while walking to your dorm, say hello, start a conversation, and get her contact details. If you see her again in the meantime before you had a chance to follow up her number, then it’s O.K.. You’re already in. Girls who are traveling want to hook up, as much as guys do, and you may be the guy for her. Don’t negatively pre-judge yourself, e.g. your too short, too old, too young, a different race. These things can work as much in your favor as it can against you. Assume in this case that you’re her type. She wants to meet a guy like you. If she does eventually turn you down its O.K., but you’re a winner because you tried.

Other scenarios: If your standing at reception with a cute chick in front of you, even if the receptionist might overhear you – say hello, and get her contact details. You’re doing laundry and a cute girl shows up in the laundry room – start a conversation. You’re making tea in the kitchen and a girl is putting something on the stove – open your mouth and say something. You’re no nerd. You’re allowed to make friends, hookup, and maybe eventually marry someone you met this way or have babies together.

Breakfast is another great place to meet girls. Say hello, ask her where she’s from, have some light-hearted banter, and then get her WhatsApp, Facebook or Snapchat. Women are generally in a good mood during breakfast. The promise of pancakes and waffles makes our mouths salivate and shoots up your brain chemicals. In addition, she’s probably well-rested and ready for the day ahead. Not yet completely in the most flow state of mind, but keen to loosen up socially in any case. That’s where you come in 🙂

Moreover, its good to do hostel activities and excursions. Once again make sure you ask the women you’ll meet that way their number or Facebook. Don’t expect that you’d somehow magically bump into her again later that day or night. 67% of the time it won’t happen that way, and she’ll make other plans. Don’t fall into the nice-guy conversation-only frame where you befriend and talk to everyone but number-close no one. You could even turn your excursion into a date with a particular girl if she is reciprocating your flirting.

 

The Common areas

 

Here’s another important point: Make sure that you know all the common areas. A lot of hostels have hidden common areas that they don’t always point out to you the first day you arrive. For example, the hostel may have an awesome rooftop bar, that you are not aware of. So why are you chatting up the girls in the kitchen instead? (Although nothing wrong with this). If you know all the common areas, including the kitchen, lounge, bar, rooftop and basement club, now you can start thinking about logistics.

 

Logistics

 

If you find a girl you vibe with, then you might wanna know where you can have some privacy together. Let’s get the notorious last option out of the way: The hostel toilet. If it’s your only option, then it’s good. Also, check out both the ensuite bathroom in your dorm, along with the other hostel bathrooms, including the lobby bathroom. You want to find the best (and cleanest) bathroom in the hostel. And why would you wanna hookup in the dorm bathroom when there are 11 other people in your dorm who are gonna knock the door down if you can go to the quiet bathroom down the corridor instead. Do this on the first day when you arrive, don’t leave it to when you actually hookup.

Secondly, maybe your hostel beds have privacy curtains. That’s solid. Unless its one of those bunk beds that move back and forth. Third option, the laundry room, but make sure there are no video cameras. Other options are hostel storage rooms. Or perhaps if it’s late at nite, the staircase or lounge sofa will do. Lastly, there’s always the expensive but good option which stingy, scrubby backpackers will hate. Upgrading your room to a private room once you get to the point where you and the girl know that you want to hookup. If you are lucky, maybe the girl already has a private room, and she may have better logistics than you. As the saying goes: 2 heads are better than 1. Meaning that sometimes you and the girl can find a better solution together than you alone. Either way, don’t judge – not everyone can afford a hotel room.

 

Conclusion

 

Going back to the golden rule, limit the amount of time spent in your dorm. The dorm is only for sleeping, not for reading, chilling and working on your laptop. Make sure you get the total money worth from your stay, by not being stuck in your room. You can even have a definite time limit to how long you’re allowed in the dorm every day. Let’s make it e.g. one hour. This doesn’t include the bathroom, sleeping and getting dressed. It does, however, give you time to charge your phone. BUT look for phone charge plugs in the common room instead. Or have a portable phone battery pack. When I travel, sometimes the first few nights at the hostel sucks, because I’m still in my local mode of functioning where I sit and work on my laptop in my room, instead of the common area. Leave this way of traveling at home with you, before you depart.

 

Final Challenge

Aside from only reading useful information, it’s always best to drill it into your daily routine if you think something has the potential to change your life in a positive way. Thus here is your challenge:

Make it a mission to at least get one girl’s number or social media every day you spend in a hostel. If you managed to take her on an instant-date instead, then it’s equally good if not better. Don’t forget to also befriend the guys and get their contact details. You never know when you may need another wingman.

What’s your view on meeting and picking up girls in hostels? Do you have any tips or questions? Comment below!

 
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