Well Dressed and Stylish: The Nice Guy Guide to Male Fashion

A lot of nice guys refuse to dress well. They are too attached to their image of not caring about their appearance. This results in them looking low-value with lacklustre clothing.

If you want to become more successful with attractive women, place more value on how you dress.

Nice guys feel they suck up to girls (and society) if they wear stylish clothes. But in reality, dressing badly is a sign of lack of self-respect and confidence.

You may not have the financial means to afford better clothes. However, once you understand fashion, you’ll realize you can be well dressed with old or cheap clothing as well. You have to wear it with confidence, and if it fits, you can easily pull off a vintage look.

Well Dressed Mindset

Another problem is when you don’t have the mindset to always look good. You think it’s OK to go run an errand while wearing trashy old clothes. This isn’t good for game. You’re going to get rejected by most women if you look like sh#t. Confidence can override bad fashion choices. Yet the confident guys usually wear clothing that is congruent with an attractive personality and positive self-image.

Moreover, let’s say you go to the supermarket after going to the gym. Without fashionable gym clothes you’re going to waste approaches if you’re not looking sexy. A combination of old running shoes and sweat-stained unattractive clothing will put a lot of girls off.

Willie Beck ran a seduction experiment by cold approaching girls while dressed like a beggar. In his case there was and there’ll usually be one or two girls interested in your personality and confidence, but this won’t be nearly as much as when you are well dressed.

Declutter Old Clothes

Declutter your closet by giving away old clothing. Don’t keep anything you didn’t wear in the last 12 months. Chances are you won’t wear it in the next year either. In this way, you also make space for better-looking clothes you’ll wear more regularly.

Plus, by chucking away your old clothes, you’ll be more aware of your best clothes at all times while getting dressed. Because you won’t have to wade through piles of old clothes you’ll never wear again.

The minimalist life philosophy is about not getting burdened down by material things. I’m referring to things that stop you from living life more abundantly, while not really benefiting you in any way. Some even suggest you’ll have increased energy as a man, if you have less dead-weight trashy belongings (including clothes) lying around everywhere at home. There is a charity shop somewhere awaiting your old clothes.

Taking Care of Your Clothing

You’ll notice when your clothing starts getting that worn-out look. A worn-out look can definitely still pass as “vintage”. Otherwise, you might have to get rid of it. After 40 washes, most clothing starts fading, unless it’s made from high-quality fabric. Buy quality clothing.

Don’t buy cheap clothes that shrink after the first wash (especially in the dryer and during hot washes). Don’t put your clothing in the dryer. The only exception is while traveling – then you sometimes have no choice. When you wash, keep it a cold wash.

Accessories

You need to wear a nice watch. If you skip on this detail, the girl will think you’re cheap. You can try to cheat with a sports watch on the first dinner date, but upmarket girls will notice. Unless its a sporty girl, in which case you might score a bonus point (as long as its not e.g. a $10 Casio watch).

A good watch lasts long. A cheap watch will break in 6 months to a year. On the bright side, some cheap watches can easily appear more expensive than they are.

In the past, there have been times where I didn’t have a nice watch, e.g. my watch’s battery was flat. In that case, I simply put the defective watch on my wrist and pretended it was a working watch. Although it was only a very temporary solution, I still got the fashionable look I wanted.

Accessories give you the edge to be well dressed. For example, a wristband on your right arm if your watch is on the left wrist. Also, consider a masculine-looking necklace. In addition, a hat is nice if you can pull it off. Plus, have a decent, well-fitted, belt to keep your pants up at all times.

You can’t skip out on good shoes. There’s a huge difference between casual, smart-casual, semi-formal, and formal shoes. Thus make sure you have the right shoes for the right occasion. Never wear casual sport shoes at night (e.g. tennis, running or gym shoes). And don’t wear formal shoes in the day, unless it’s for work. You should definitely own at least one pair of good-looking smart-casual shoes, as these can be versatile for both day and night.

Never wear white socks with a pair of jeans. Plus, cut-off socks while exercising looks slick. To get that boss feeling when dressing up, check out these Hugo Boss socks on Amazon.

Underwear: Boxers are comfortable, and generally a good option if your planning to hook up. Read our separate Male Underwear Guide over here.

Know the Gaming Environment

Adapt your clothing style to the environment you are in. In the city, when you are out with the working crowd, wearing a collared shirt with e.g. a jeans, can get you better results. Here you need to fit in with a more mature crowd at night. However, in a student town I’ve gotten way better results with a t-shirt and jean combination.

Buying New Clothing

While you are clothes shopping, the lighting in the dressing room is designed to make you look as attractive as possible. You could take a selfie with your cellphone in the dressing room mirror. Then ask friends for advice afterwards: “Does this look good on me?”. Furthermore, taking a dressing room photo gives you another angle to verify if the clothing fits well.

Some sales assistants will give you honest feedback on the look you’re trying to achieve. But a large percentage would lie to make the sale. These assistants deserve their store’s high clothing return ratio. Gradually, you become better at discerning whether a sales assistant is being truthful or not.

The more fashion-attuned you become, the better clothing choices you’ll eventually make. Initially, you may make a few regretful purchases that you barely ever wear, along with great clothes you’ll want to wear every other day.

Avoid T-shirts with huge logos. It’s more classy and fashionable to wear clothing without logos. Be your own brand, don’t advertise somebody else’s logo and brand for free. Instead, buy plain one-color t-shirts with a nice cut that fits you well. Once you master this stylish and versatile look, you’ll get hooked. But you need confidence to pull it off.

The importance of getting the right fit for your clothing choices cannot be over-emphasized. Make sure your clothes are not too short if you are tall, nor too long if you are short. Also, it shouldn’t be too tight around your shoulders, neither baggy. If a T-shirt feels tight (or short) the day you buy it, think how tight it’ll be after a few washes.

It’s not always easy to find well-fitting, quality clothing, depending on where you live. Although ordering online is an option, traveling will definitely give you an advantage towards finding stylish clothes. Lastly, look how other fashionable guys dress. It’ll give you a general idea of how you should dress.

Also don’t hesitate to flirt with the clothing sales-lady, if she’s hot.

Black leather jackets (click here for a few stylish examples at Amazon) are an asset to any seducer, as it helps you move away from the nice guy image towards the badboy vibe, without necessarily having to be an asshole.

Below is an example of a dirt-cheap faux-leather jacket that fits well. I bought something similar once in Sao Paulo, Brazil. It was a great buy, despite that the fish moths started eating it after 2 or 3 years. Of course, unless you’re vegan, it is better wearing the “real thing” i.e. 100% genuine leather. But very few girls will even realize that it’s fake leather.

To be well dressed, you should pay attention to the details. Every piece of clothing should be a perfect fit with the stylish image you wish to portray.

Male Grooming

Apart from your clothing choices, you should also be well-groomed. You don’t need to put cucumber or avocado cream on your face, but trimming the beard and neck hair can help. If you want to appeal more to younger girls, then shave. If you prefer older women, then grow the beard. It’s recommended to cut your hair every third week, unless you’re growing it for a different style. Trim your nails with a nail clipper.

With nice guys, bad breath (“halitosis”) is a common problem as well. Why should they care about their appearance and how they come across… Everyone should accept them for who they are, right? No, bad breath is repulsive. Brush the teeth and if the problem persist, it could be due to bad diet.

Lastly, hit the gym at the very least once a week. Because it’s much easier to look good in cool clothing if you work out and eat clean.

Conclusion: Well dressed and Stylish

Take photos when you are out with your wingmen and girlfriends. Then when you look at the pics later, you’ll be able to tell if the piece of clothing that looked good in the dressing-room mirror, also looks good in a real life scenario.

You’ll automatically feel good while wearing certain outfits, and you’ll “know” that you are well-dressed. At other times, your instinct will tell you that you are under-dressed. Post pics with your latest outfits in social media groups for other guys’ advice.

Be well-dressed all the time. Even if you are at home, smoking a cigar in your living room, be sure to dress like Hugh Hefner with a classy bathrobe. There’s no place or time for bad-looking clothing. Throw it out.

How do you feel about being well-dressed and stylish? Do you agree with this article? Or maybe you have another tip or two! Post your tips, questions and comments below!