The Winning Mindset to Pick Up Girls

The Winning Mindset is the difference between being a shy incel, and that confident guy picking up girls daily, wherever he goes. It’s a mindset that includes not giving up on your dreams, as well as believing in yourself. Plus, seeing a cute girl, approaching and getting to know her. And somewhere along the line, embedding your DNA inside of her. You win. She wins. And hopefully, society wins. If you’re not careful, they’ll screw you over with child support eventually though. Unless you marry and don’t divorce.

There’s so much misinformation out there on being a winner. Society will say: “Get rich at all costs, then you’re a winner”. But step on other people on your way to the top, and I’ll tell you the truth: Then you’re a f#ckin loser.

Let’s investigate a few essential ideas on how to get that winning mindset in seduction, and hopefully, also in life.
 

Every Attempt Brings you Closer to your Goal

 
Every rejection brings you closer to your true self.

 

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Approach every single-looking girl you see, even if it seems “impossible”. Game in different cities, try different formats of game, using various techniques until you get consistent results. Learn, experiment and take seduction notes like a student cramming for his exams. Step into your future self.

Be obsessed.

 

Try and Fail

 
“What if” keeps you stuck. But Try and Fail, then you’ll grow as a seducer. You learn new social skills, and you become more attractive. You open doors for yourself eventually. If I do nothing, I stagnate. When I try new things, I grow. If I get rejected, I become better.

There is no “failure” with the winner’s mindset.

 

Persistence

 
I don’t give up the first time a hot girl rejects me. I keep on trying with other girls. It’s like being stuck in a pit that you have to get out of. I climb day by day, even if I only make small progress. Your success must depend on it as if your life depends on it. Make it happen.

If I get rejected once, then I can go out into the field immediately again. If I get rejected twice, it doesn’t matter. It can take 20 approaches, and that’s the distance I’m willing to go. Or 200 – if needed – while adjusting your technique along the way.

Everything is a learning experience.

(Of course, persistence doesn’t mean being the loser who doesn’t get the message when a girl is clearly telling you to leave her alone.)
 

Hard Work

 
I don’t leave my success with women up to chance. I make my success happen. And I put in the work required to succeed. Going out is fun. But at the same time, it can feel like hard work to succeed with women.

If it feels like hard work, then you’re doing it right. Nobody said girls are going to fall into your lap.

You go on dates when you have time. You approach and follow up numbers. You partake in social activities. You face your fears. You make an effort to approach daily. And if you live (or travel) in a place without attractive girls, then you move somewhere else.

Ask yourself:

• How many girls do you have to approach tomorrow to be the man you want to be?
• How often do you need to work out every week to look attractive?
• Do you need money, then how hard do you have to work (or study) every day?

Commit to your success. Do what it takes to be a winner. Forget your excuses. And be a well-rounded player, not forgetting the importance of work and education.

Hard Work = Results

 

Can’t Bring Me Down to Their Level

 
Your spirit soars above all obstacles. It damn well ain’t easy to always be like a superhuman being with the mental strength of a Jedi. But it’s something to strive for. Dark triads may try to drag you down to their level by doing you in. No matter what – they are beneath you. Forget the losers, the opportunists, the potheads, and the scumbags.

It ain’t easy, but it’s like losing weight. You can keep this weight around you, or you can practice daily to get into shape. Or in this case, work on your mindset to pick up girls, and get into shape mentally.

Lastly, leave the girl better off than you found her. Be the Winner.

Winners succeed ethically

 

 

Not Being a Natural Doesn’t Matter

 
By doing more approaches, and refining your technique, you can eventually outshine anyone who is considered a “natural” with girls. Be the guy in the community who is known for putting in massive action towards his dating goals. The guy who stays out late at night until he pulls. The guy who goes in, rejection after rejection, like a motivated beast, until he succeeds.

Similarly, if you go out gaming and there are only one or two opportunities: The loser will say, screw this, I don’t feel like approaching. The winner gets to know one or two more girls, whether it leads somewhere or not.

Being a Natural Doesn’t Matter. Being Committed to Success, Matters.

 

Things Happen For Me

 
Life unfolds to my own advantage. If something negative happens to you, know at the end of the day, it’ll benefit you in some way. Everything that happens to you will work out in your favor.

Recently, in Rio de Janeiro, my metro card didn’t let me through to the train due to insufficient credit. Thus, I had to walk a few hundred meters to go recharge my card. The girl I was with, went in first, and thus could go on to her train (leaving me behind). Still, at that point, she wasn’t giving me the right kind of IOI’s (“Indicators of Interest”).

Either way, I didn’t think to myself: “F#ck this situation”. Instead, I remained calm and got on another train. While exiting this train, I randomly stumble upon another strikingly cute athletic girl. I get her number and we make love that same night, and the next. Afterwards, I feel grateful that my metro card stopped me from taking the earlier train.

Everything works out for me. You are not supposed to immediately understand the “why” behind all the (seemingly) bad (or random) sh#t that happens to you.

An ancient Taoist story tells of a young man who broke a leg and thus didn’t get drafted into the army. A war broke out, his country lost, and all the soldiers got killed. The moral of the story is that after anything negative that happens to you, pose yourself the question: “Who knows what’s good or bad?” Because what appears initially as misfortune, can eventually turn out to be a “blessing in disguise”.

Moreover, maybe some people are trying to treat you like shit. Suddenly, you find an inner fire of motivation swell up inside of you that you would not otherwise have had. You end up achieving your dreams, not in spite of the losers, but because of them.

The wolf cast out will lead the pack.

 

Pain Becomes Strength

 
Welcome the pain you feel in your seduction journey. Pain is the solution because pain turns into strength.

Pain is the raw material. Strength is the end results.

The pain of a missed approach will turn into strength eventually. Nothing red pills like pain.

Pain gives you a thick skin – the ultimate approach anxiety antidote.

Go out and approach cute girls. Face the pain. Or you’ll be faced with the pain of loneliness and social isolation. Pain is Strength. And as the slogan goes:

No Pain, No Gain.

 

 

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No Fixed Mindset

 
“What should I say to this girl I like?”. What’s an outside the box response? Say anything. But say it with confidence.

Try different things, different methods e.g. direct or indirect. Find what works for you. Be fluid like water, in your approach. Think outside the box. There is no box.

Make the impossible possible.

 

Set Larger Goals

 
Do you want to pull one girl this weekend? Try setting the goal of pulling two or three instead. The higher you aim, the better results you’ll get. Shoot for the moon and you’ll land among the stars.

One small caveat: Don’t be so greedy that you compromise on e.g. your health or career. You still need to get adequate sleep, a decent diet, some exercise, and to get work done. If you neglect these for more short-term success, you’ll burn yourself out (and become less attractive to women).

Dream big. …Or Don’t Dream.

 

No Excuses

 
Whatever obstacles there are, in seduction, don’t get into the bad habit of making excuses. It’s usually effective to give a friend money to hold on to until you reach your daily approach goal. You’re less likely to make excuses. Then you go out, and you meet women.

Excuses are like stumbling blocks keeping you from meeting more girls. The obstacle in your head is not the real problem. The real problem is the excuses you make.

Go Out And Game.

 

Make the Attempt

 
The Winner is the guy who was willing to be seen as a fool but went for that sexy girl, anyway.

Did anyone see him as a fool? No. They envied him instead.

Approach by Approach We Win Daily

 

Short-term vs Long-term winning

 
Sometimes you can both lose and win at the same time. For example, you lose short term when a girl declines you sex. But you win long-term if she made you realize that you need to become better at the skill of seduction.

I can win by having sex with a girl who I see as a 6 or 7, but at the same time lose because I didn’t go for the 8 or 9.

I can win by sleeping with 100 new girls. But lose if I’m 50 years old and still haven’t made a girl I’m attracted to, pregnant.
 

Conclusion: The Winning Mindset

 
What do you tell yourself when you reflect upon your own life? If you tell me you’re a winner, I believe you man. If you tell me you’re a loser, I’ll also believe you.  And if you avoid my question, while taking a puff of marijuana, for the 2nd or 3rd time this week. You don’t have to answer me, because I already know you’re a loser.

The Winning Mindset is available to all of us. It’s accessible within. When you get that winning mindset, doors open, girls swoon for you, and you end up accomplishing your highest and best goals, eventually.
 

Winning Mindset Affirmations (Inner Game)

 
Reading through these positive affirmations will give you a boost in life.

• I’m a winner.
• Attractive girls see me as a winner.
• Friends keep on telling me what a winner I am.
• I succeed ethically.
• I always win.
• When I win, everybody else wins as well.
• I win short-term, medium-term, and long-term.
• I win with girls all the time.
• I win in relationships.
• I win in sex.
• I win in pro-creation.
• I win in life.
• I win, and I don’t make excuses for not winning, because I always win.
• I don’t care for society’s accolades – my spirit wins all the time.
• I don’t care for approval of an evil society – I cannot fail – winning is my destiny.
• Winning is my birthright.
• I triumph over bad ethics.
• I triumph over difficult life circumstances.
• I win in spite of corrupt loser enemies.
• I win all the time.
• I cannot lose.
• I enjoy winning in life.
• I win ethically.
• I never get tired of winning.

Here’s to a life of winning. When a man walks in the light, victory is always guaranteed.

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Another Mindset-related post to check out is my book summary and review of Gorilla Mindset by Mike Cernovich.