Nice Guy Syndrome: Unlock Your Masculinity

The nice guy syndrome : You’re not sure if it’s a vaccine-related injury, lack of strong male role-models, or a result of media brainwashing.

Meanwhile, you walk outside, feel the cool air brushing your skin. You notice a hot girl walking in your direction. Should I talk to her? Your pulse starts racing as you get closer and closer. You notice her checking you out. Looking at you, into your eyes. Then for a split-second she looks down to your crotch, and back up to your eyes. She’s suggestively biting her lips as she walks past. You feel a tension gripping in your neck and upper chest. You don’t know what to say. You feel stifled, and keep on walking. Never to see that girl again. As quickly as she appeared out of nowhere, she disappears again.

Afterwards, you realize you threw away a sexual encounter by not approaching. So you go back to tinder, and swipe more in the land of snakes and catfish. Plus here and there, a cute pony or two (…depending where you’re swiping).

For many of us, this is not the life we imagined ourselves to live when we grew up. We imagined a future filled with adventure, warm social interactions, happy endings with sexy girlfriends, and fun times with good friends.

The Mediocre Man

So what went wrong? You learned to accept mediocrity. Now your results are a testimony to bad mindset and lack of motivation. Yeah, I know it’s cold outside, but that’s not an excuse. Nothing warms you up more than a fit hot girl next to you on a winter night.

Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself: Stop disappointing your own expectations. Then put in the effort needed to game successfully.

The Natural is pragmatic in solving his problems. He has rejected mediocrity. Now his focus is on producing excellent work. He knows success will follow.

Move Away From Mediocrity, Towards Excellence.

Plus, the natural looks good. He is part of some sport or fitness team, or he exercises daily. They never emphasize how important this is in the PUA scene. Because telling guys to be fit like the naturals are, doesn’t help to sell a $500 video product.

Moreover, he approaches cute girls every day. Knowing he will still be rejected. But perfectionism has lost it’s meaning to him, since in human relationships, excellence can only be achieved in imperfection. Through continuous rejection, he succeeds.

So, don’t look for the easy fix. There aren’t any. But take small steps towards your ideal life and ideal self. Achieve your goals one by one, while gradually along the way, unlocking the padlock of nice guy syndrome.

Blame-Game and Victimhood

The victim continuously thinks some other person is responsible for his problem. Instead, take responsibility, and try to solve the problem. Blaming keeps you stuck. It puts the power outside of yourself to make positive changes in your life.

Plus, if you blame someone else, you’ll keep on fearing future mistakes as well. Because there is never any strength in yourself to solve any problems. Blaming others is a mental trap to avoid. Because you’ve got the strength inside to accomplish anything.

Of course, bad things can happen. However, no matter what happens, you still gotta be focused on your goals as best you can. Are you a victim to life, or do you create the life you want? Move past bad situations quickly by applying solution-focused thinking. There is evil in the world. But don’t let the evil win by making you fall into victim mindset.

The reason you are not approaching girls is NOT your parents’ fault. It’s not your society’s fault. Unless you live in a society’s where it’s illegal to cold approach (in which case it’s your responsibility to emigrate). It’s not women’s fault. It’s your own fault. This empowers you to start approaching girls. When you realize that the only thing holding you back is yourself.

Don’t keep on thinking what can go wrong. Instead, think what can go right.

Focus on solutions and not problems. Set yourself free. A better mindset also includes better diet, more sunshine, fresh air, exercise, daygame and good relationships.

Along with studying seduction, don’t forget looksmaxing, and career success for better logistics. Plus, like a real man, take the road less traveled to boost your confidence in life. Lastly, if needed, consider coaching to overcome your nice guy syndrome.

Lack of Self-Worth

Not approaching cute girls means you lack self worth. You attribute more value to the girl, and society’s judgment of you, than you attribute to yourself. Plus, your desire to have a relationship and normal sex life, sadly weigh less in your mind than “the heavy burden” of what society thinks of you.

If you approach, you may get shamed afterwards for being awesome and approaching girls. But if you have strong self-worth, you won’t mind risking rejection. Because otherwise you’d be rejecting yourself.

Feeling high self-worth is important. Since by satisfying your sex needs, you live a happier life. Thus, you won’t need hard drugs and alcoholism. Then you’ll treat other people better as well.

On the other side, you have the alcoholic who gets laid a lot, but he has low self-worth. He sometimes fucks without a condom, even if its a one-nightstand. Thus he endangers himself to the possibility of STDs. Guys who have less self-respect, e.g. sniffing cocaine regularly, often also has less respect for others. Like nice guy syndrome, they appear nice on the surface, but are toxic below the surface.

Find constructive role models. Raise your self worth, self-respect and build a good life. Or keep struggling with approach anxiety. After-cocaine anxiety. After-beer coma anxiety. After whiskey throw-up anxiety. MSG-junk food anxiety. Soda- and obese girl anxiety. After not-approaching anxiety.

Make time for both cold approach, and your career goals. Re-assess your goals regularly. Be a well balanced man. Have consensual sex with girls, and live a full life. Follow your dreams and be grounded by approaching girls.

To Fear or Not To Fear

Fear is a definite element of nice guy syndrome. What if this or that happens? Fears are real. Or at least, they feel real. Take precautions against fears. Fear is not necessarily False Evidence Appearing Real. But learn to distinguish between real fears and fake fears.

Take your real fears seriously. For example, if you join the military, getting shot is a real fear based in reality. How can you say this is False Evidence Appearing Real? If you ignore this fear, you’ll be less careful while fighting. “Fear is false, so why should I wear a helmet or body armor?”. On the other hand, if you’re in some paradise, then you most likely won’t need body armor.

With women, a real fear would be what would happen if you go to a public place, and be super direct. For example, tell 10 girls you want to give them oral sex immediately. Unless you’re a comedian with a humorous undertone, chances are you may get confronted if its a conservative city (without much benefit to yourself). But doing normal cold approach, without being super direct, then your fear is mostly irrational. In that case, it is False Evidence Appearing Real. There’s still a small chance a girl might not like your method of approaching if you’re socially awkward. However, in that case simply buy coaching or game with better wings, to learn how to make the girl feel more comfortable.

Thus, be wary of the anti-fear movement. Rather accept and embrace fear, and let fear allow you to make better decisions. While, at the same time, understanding the boundaries. But within the boundaries, have fun.

Limiting Beliefs

Nice guys have sharp intellectual minds. It is with these minds they often create problems for themselves. They cleverly craft out all their limiting beliefs in their heads. With their sharp minds, they defend their limiting beliefs repeatedly.

To unlock your masculinity, make a list of your limiting beliefs and work on disproving them one by one. Nice guy syndrome keeps you stuck in weakness, because it’s a comfort zone. But it’s not to your benefit. Do go out and game.

Put in the Work (and get the rejections)

Nice Guys are lazy. They play video games, browse social media for hours, refuse to clean their rooms, to exercise, or to go shopping for nicer clothes.

Why should I do sit-ups? Or in whatever area you’re lacking in. Why should I clean my room, or get a place of my own? It’s so comfortable in my parents basement, where I can eat pizza, and play video-games the whole day. Plus, the syndrome can make you lazy to go out… To go inside a bar or nightclub, then stay there from minimum 30 minutes.

In the long run, no one is gonna motivate you if you can’t motivate yourself. Similarly with cold approach. No one’s gonna take your ass outdoors and make you do approaches (unless you pay them well enough, which can be expensive).

Also, nice guys can be scattered in focus. Instead of being goal-focused. This prevents you from accelerating your results. For example, if you wanna have a successful instant date, then go outside and game. It only takes one girl to succeed. Thus, it doesn’t even have to be a busy day outside.

Be Organized and Disciplined

Nice guys don’t take massive action, nor take enough control over their lives. Something outside of themselves determines their success… right?

No. Set out your goals, and work towards them. For example, currently, my goal is to finish this post, then get some exercise afterwards. Plus, the important dating goal is to meet and date a hot girl in the next day or two.

Am I gonna put in corresponding effort?

For example, if I don’t do e.g. 10 approaches, then I can’t expect much success with my dating goal.

If the passion is there, it’s only a matter of time before the success comes. Follow up passion with discipline.

Mental Strength

What’s stopping you from more success with women? Do you have the mental fortitude to go out and game successfully? Or are you short-circuiting yourself with limiting beliefs? Or with nice guy syndrome behaviors that destroys good results… Are you supplicating to women, or are you a confident man.

Nice guys would tell the girl: “I’m sorry if you’re upset that I tried to kiss you at the end of our 4th date.” First problem, why did you only kiss her on the 4th date? Second problem: Apologizing for wanting to kiss a women on a date, is not a good mating strategy. Lead the interaction strongly like a man, with calibration and masculine intent, from the first date, onwards.

Approach, since you miss out so much sex and girlfriends simply for not approaching due to negative social conditioning. Cultivate mental fortitude in your day-to-day life. Sufficiently so that you approach hot women as a reflex-action.  Don’t be the nice guy stifled with his metaphorical useless mask.

Conclusion

As a man, there is no one policing your

• Relations with the opposite sex,
• Your daily approaches, and
• Your motivation level to achieve your dream life.

This is good and bad. Good, because we all hate fascism and totalitarian surveillance over our daily lives. Bad, because you are now forced to start “policing” yourself. To hold yourself to a high standard of masculinity. To date and have consensual sex with the cutest girls.

Instead of being smashed by nice guy syndrome, you must now go outside and smash your nice guy syndrome instead.

You were meant to live your dreams, and not your nightmares. Of course, we’re not telling you to be an asshole. But simply to stop the self-sabotage.

Overcome Nice Guy Syndrome – Affirmations

• I easily overcome Nice Guy Syndrome.
• I conquer authentic masculinity.
• I embrace my masculinity.
• I relate with all men and women in an authentic way.
• I am the epitome of masculinity.
• I embrace my inner strength.
• I act with strength all the time.
• I achieve my goals easily.
• I have very positive relationships with all men and women, effortlessly.
• I have high self-worth
• I live a life of excellence in relationships, seduction and sex
• I have high self-esteem
• I have sex with hot women regularly
• I easily have a hot girlfriend.

What’s your views on nice guy syndrome? Comment below any tips for other readers on how you smash your limiting beliefs and nice guy tendencies daily.

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