When a girl leaves you on read, go do some other stuff.
Some guys would double-text. But this can be needy. Like rewarding her disinterest with interest.
You should only reward her interest. If she pulls her interest away from you, then also pull your interest away from her.. Not necessarily entirely, but simply to same degree that she’s withdrawing her interest from you.
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🎶She don’t care about you 🎶
She saw your message. She knows you know she saw your message. And she don’t care.
Thus chill out and go f^ck a pineapple. I’m kidding. Don’t f^ck a pineapple. Go out instead.
Even if its midweek, and without large parties.
Go out anyway
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Triple Texting
Triple Text? Don’t even go there. These Persistence gurus will tell you to triple text ad infinitum, until she finally gives in and meets up for a pity-fuck. It’s not impossible, but meanwhile a regular PUA had sex with 5 other medium-to-high interest girls, while you were triple and quar-triple texting for your low interest pity fuck, which will probably never happen.
Please Respond
In the PUA Glory days, less experienced guys would text “Pls Respond” every time a girl doesn’t respond.
The point they missed, was that these are all Low Interest Girls, who don’t see you as a priority. So these dudes, who weren’t getting laid as much as they wanted to, were spending their energy on figuring out how to get low interest girls, instead of focusing on high interest girls all around them (and on dating apps of course). This is the 80/20 principle.
80/20 Principle
20% of Women give you 80% of results (high interest girls). While 80% of women (low interest girls) will give you 20% of results.
Most men of high value and intelligence, would rather pursue the 20% high interest girls. Because
- They value their time
- They see their own sexual value
- They don’t beg (with e.g. triple-texting).
They sure as hell also don’t care to find the latest Lazarus Raise The Dead text message. These are silly gimmicks for noobs in game. Sometimes you raise the dead but these hoes will fall dead again after a week or two. Don’t worry. But sorry. You’re no magician. You’re a regular dude who wants to get laid.
You’re Left On Read
Life Goes On. Do you have enough stuff going on in your own life not to care about being left on read? Because you shouldn’t care. Being alive is (supposed to be) fun. But these girls don’t wanna have fun with you. Go find fun elsewhere.
- BE THE FUN. When you’re out partying, solo sarging, working, exercising. When you’re doing anything. Fun must be generated from within thyself (one of those golden rules of Game). Don’t depend on others for fun vibes.
- Find fun hobbies to do instead of caring about being left on read.
- Eat a healthy meal. It’ll make you feel better about being ghosted.
- Go travel. Around the world in 80 girls, or something. Maybe she’ll text you back before you return from your round-the-world trip.
- And most important: Follow up the medium-to-high interest girls, instead.
Demanding a text response
You can confront the girl in the texting about the fact that she’s leaving you on read. But I don’t recommend this as this can be desperate. However, it’s also not the worst thing to do, if you want honest feedback. That is …if she even responds.
She’s not your work colleague or business partner, so chillax if its only a social acquaintance. Because especially on dating apps, you should be able to read between the lines.
To read women better, put yourself in a chick’s shoes. If a girl asked me something, and I wasn’t that into her, for example, she’s chubby. Then I’d also leave her on read. Because I like her cute face, while her body doesn’t do it for me. If she now confronts me by asking “Guy, I like you, but this is so disrespectful of you to leave me on read!”. I’ll simply indirectly tell her to f^ck off. Although I’d at least give her some honest feedback.
Anyway, in my e-book I explain that in verbal game, you should simply learn to express whatever your thinking and feeling inside of you. Authentic game. So with this girl, I’d text back (for example): “Sorry, your face is kinda cute, but I don’t like your thick-ish thighs.” I wouldn’t send this message unless she’s very assertive and insists on a response. Because it’s an asshole move to point out her obesity. But then again, she’s demanding I respond to her message.
People are nice
This is often the reason why people leave others on read. We don’t want to unnecessarily offend or make someone feel bad. We leave it up to them to fill in the blanks, and read between the lines, that you’re simply not very interested. Thus even the girls who ghost you, could be doing this out of their own good nature. Because if she doesn’t respond, she also doesn’t “lead you on”, any further.
If a girl leaves you on read you can assume “not hot enough” is one of the ways she’d describe you. However, this is according to her own brain imprints of what is a “hot guy”. Don’t take it personally. To her, a cokehead may be hot. While a guy drinking a green smoothie maybe isn’t her kind of hot. In this case, screw her, she’s cancer. Luckily there’s also many bright and wholesome chicks out there.
The Happy Ending
If you made it this far through the article, you deserve some good news.
Being left on read can simply mean she hasn’t had the chance to respond to your message yet. For example, she may have had one or two (or even three) crazy days at her job. Meanwhile, she assumes you’ll be understanding and cool enough not to freak out that she isn’t immediately responding. She could also simply have more stuff going on in her life, that you have going on in your life.
In this case, it still isn’t necessary to double text, as she will get back to you when she has more time to straighten out her thinking. If she thinks straight, she will date you. You’re the man, right? Either way, that’s how you should think.
However, impatience is not cool. Thus, learn to patiently await responses after texting girls to meet up. Impatience can be a disguised form of insecurity. Not feeling secure about your own value as a man, you double and triple text to get the girls attention. In this way, impatience becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy. You put her off with your over-eager desperation texting. But if you’re a cool guy, you’ll be patient.
You’ll have positive expectancy.
The girl will like your cool vibe, that you’re not desperately trying to get her attention.
Sure, sometimes she may still be ghosting. She may be leaving you on read to avoid telling you that she thinks you’re a ________ (insert your favorite slur for men you don’t like). But its an important concept to understand for single guys, nevertheless.
The Left On Read Mindset
You could screw up good prospects with
- negativity
- bad self-image
- lack of self-belief
- low self-esteem
Thus, make sure that you never tick these negative boxes with women.
Instead, tick the below virtues at all times. If necessary, write it down on a piece of paper and put it in your wallet
- Positivity
- Self-belief
- Healthy positive self-image
- Know your value
- High Self-esteem
- Positive expectancy
Role Reversal: Should You Leave Women On Read?
Ideally you shouldn’t. It’s like a bad habit. If there’s a girl on Tinder who asked you something, decide if you wanna date her or not. If not, simply unmatch. No response needed. Unmatching is a response in itself.
But otherwise, maybe its a daygame number close that you since lost interest in. Then simply politely decline her further advances. This is the most masculine ideal way of being direct with other people.
I’m saying “ideally”. As sometimes going silent is also a fair response. For example, someone wants to do drugs with you. In this case, you don’t need to respond. Or someone is using over-aggressive business or seduction tactics on you, then you also don’t need to respond. But if its a decent person with decent intentions and questions, try best to respond.
The key question is usually: Are you treating this person in the way that you want to be treated?
If you can answer “yes”, then its fine. It takes courage to decline someone verbally for a date, as opposed to simply ghosting. Because if you decline them verbally, you’re giving them the gift of honesty, which can be empowering. The girl then knows what’s going on in your head. And she could use it against you in the future if she wanted to..
Try Honesty
Let’s say you feel horny again for her, 1 year later. Then she’ll remind you: “Last year you told me you’re not feeling a connection with me, but now you wanna meet again. Why?” She’ll be skeptical and probably not meet again.
But if you simply ghost, you may be able to simply lie later on: “Hey, I was simply too busy with work last year, this is why I didn’t respond. Let’s meet up again next weekend”. Meanwhile the real reason was your lack of interest in the girl at that time. She probably won’t meet up again, either way.
Thus simply be honest and get it over and done with. Miracles do happen though.
But the bottom line is, honesty can be liberating. You’ll never need to cover your tracks. Everyone knows where they stand with you, and vice versa. It’s a positive challenge to try and avoid leaving others on read.
In South Africa, I once dated a girl who was very religious. “Happy clappers” is how we refer to them. In the texting after date 1, she made it clear that this kite won’t fly. It’s refreshing honesty. Yet it was bad news for myself – only 1 year into pickup at that point. But she made her mind transparent for me to peek into.
You could then even probe further into her reasons for not wanting a second date. Honest girls will give you valuable sincere feedback. Many girls will say: “Yeah nothing specific, I simply didn’t feel the vibe”. This isn’t that helpful, but it’ll at least encourage you to improve your vibe.
Try to give this gift of truth to people around you. This includes cold approaching cute girls. Complimenting them – as we often do as PUAs. And asking their phone numbers. This’ll signify to your prospective dates and past dates, that you are a man of abundance. Not a needy man of scarcity.
Conclusion: What To Do When She Leaves You On Read
To get back to the blogpost topic: You still don’t know where you stand with those girls who are leaving you on read. But you don’t need to know. And you really shouldn’t care. Because you’re destined for greatness, either way.
Have you ever been left on read by a girl, and how do you react to this? Comment below your own views, tips and suggestions for other readers.
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