The Cold Approach Numbers Game and LooksMax

According to the trending LooksMax theory of Seduction, the two most important factors of Game are (a) to optimize your looks, and (b) play the numbers game. Optimizing your looks includes going to the gym, dressing well, eating healthy, and being well-groomed. Some sources also argue for plastic surgery, but I strongly discourage this unless you were in an accident or have a medical problem. There’s usually underlying self-esteem issues that need to be addressed instead.

Of course, you can argue that Looksmax is a flawed philosophy and that there are many other theories and facets to Game. For example, your conversational skills, flirting confidence, and financial success are also important. Think what difference it’ll make to have a cool pad where you can invite girls over (good logistics). Or a car so you can actually go out regularly. On the other hand, there are guys with the best accommodation in the world (and driving Ferrari’s), who are still not getting any action. Yet I do not think it’s far-fetched to say that 75% (or more) of Game is about maxing out your looks and doing plenty of approaches (this includes having the confidence to approach). And 75% is a hell of a lot.

The best instructors usually either genetically resemble models (young or fresh looking faces), or they work out 5 days a week (thus making them appear very attractive). They get a lot of positive reinforcement from women since they look good. Thus girls find it easier to overlook the flaws in their game. But if you’re not maxing out your looks, the girl may scrutinize everything you say – much more deeply.

Looksmax can mean either low body-fat, skinny, or muscular (thus “ripped”). Show up at the party like this, and see if you still leave alone at the end of the night:

Although you can still get laid if you are out of shape, quality of girls you meet and sleep with improve when you work on your looks and style. Unless you’ve got something else going for you like money, social status, great wit, or flirting skills.

So you put some work into maxing out your looks by working out every day in the past week. This can be yoga, CrossFit, running, lifting weights, soccer, or anything else physical – not chess. Now what exactly is the perfect number of cold approaches per day?

How Many Cold Approaches during the Day?

Sometimes one approach per day is enough to take a girl home. But to get to this skill level, you need to put in more than one a day initially. Furthermore, you should make sure that you live in a cool place where you are able to meet attractive women. Even in most quiet towns, everyone can do 1 approach per day. In a medium-sized town, 2 easily. If you live in a vibrant, albeit not the largest, town, do 3 approaches per day. In the city, do 4 approaches. If you can push it further to 5 per day, it’ll be like a “golden ratio”.

The pro coaches, who get paid to game, can easily afford to do 20 approaches per day. They don’t have any other career or study commitments. Yet, you don’t always need 20 approaches.  Sometimes you’ll hook after 3 or 4 approaches, then take the girl on an instant date.

Since I don’t want you to lose your job or fail your studies, it would be irresponsible to recommend the average Joe to do 10 daygame approaches every day. Rather focus on doing 5 high quality and sincere approaches, instead of rushing through 10 approaches simply because you still have to get back to class or work.

How Many Cold Approaches at Night?

At night, in a club, there are a lot more girls available, and as a bare minimum, you should do 10 approaches every Friday and Saturday night. Past this point, I usually stop counting. But I still continue approaching. 20+ Approaches at night? Definitely – but only if necessary. The more approaches you do, the quicker you get into state. Putting in a lot of action will lead you to that positively addictive social-high feeling. Unless I pull, I wouldn’t be happy if I didn’t do at least 15 approaches per night, during weekends. In the week it’s usually harder to find large parties. If you can find a busy social event, do the minimum 10 approaches.

An Effective Cold Approach

I realized that during nightgame, it’s not only about an approach, its more about an effective approach. This includes physicality, calibration, dancing with her, playful teasing, and some cocky banter. You can do a half-assed basic daygame approach, which may be effective in the daytime, at night 50 times without getting any result. But if you do it right, and approach effectively, you’ll excel in nightgame.

Counting your Approaches

Steve Jabba (PUA coach) mentions that you should expect a success ratio of having sex with around 1% to 7% of your daygame approaches. This relates back to one out of every 100 approaches (for noobs) to 15 approaches per “lay” for advanced guys. My own range would also be between 15 for advanced guys (if you are skilled and picky about who you approach, it could sometimes be less), to +- 75 for beginners.

Count your approaches using a counter app on your phone, to see how efficient your approaches are. After every daygame approach, tick +1. Do this until you manage to take a girl home that you met this way. It’s better than remembering “more or less” how many daygame approaches you’ve done recently. Plus, you’ll look forward to every new opportunity to press the +1 button. At the same time, don’t be statistically obsessed, the most important metric is that you feel you are continuously improving your game.

Some days you will feel very “on” and in a good state. Then, you number close the first girl you talk with and end up having sex on the first date. Or you instant date the first girl you meet in a day, and 40 minutes later she’s in your apartment, blowing you. This is especially likely if you live a cool life with things going on in your life (Looksmax isn’t everything). Or… maybe she rejects you after a 40-minute instant-date. In that case, you simply dive back infield immediately, while you got momentum going for you, and you get another instant-date. Odds are you’ll be lucky the 2nd time.

Other Factors

The scale of the numbers game you have to play definitely depends on what environment you are gaming in. For example, if it’s at a university or a social club where you have pre-existing social proof, like studying at the same faculty, then it’ll lower your close-to-approach ratio. Moreover, if you’re a lecturer, and physically in shape, you’ll probably easily close every second girl in this environment due to social status. Or maybe you and the women work at the same company. Thus you’re not simply some random stranger to her, and it’s more likely she’ll give you her number.

In some areas, e.g. student towns, there is going to be a lot of single girls around. While in other neighborhoods, you’ll repeatedly bump your head trying to pick up girls who are more settled down with long-term boyfriends or husbands.

Different countries will also lead to a different ratio. You’ll almost certainly get rejected more in conservative-leaning Belgrade during the day, than in Helsinki.

Keeping Track of Cold Approach and Dating

On a Sunday evening, choose how many approaches you want to do daily for the next week. Draw up a table with a pen and paper. Then fill your daily goal in the top row. Every day of the week, you’re going to follow up and write down how many approaches you did. This includes daygame, nightgame, and actual dates. While a “date” will include:

• Day 2’s (the follow-up from a number-close),
• Instant dates, &
• Online dates.

Dates are one of the main goals of seduction. Thus, if you managed to go on a date that day, you’ve pretty much reached your daily goal, and any further approaches would simply be a bonus.

Documenting your progress by writing down both your goals and results for that week, will help you improve faster. It’ll also keep you focused and committed.

However, if you are in a quiet small town, don’t walk around hours every day looking for girls to talk with (when there aren’t any). It’ll be a waste of your time. Thus set realistic goals.

Field Report: High Cold Approach Success Ratio (Pull before Exam)

Due to my interest in self-development, I was curious about the academic field of Psychology. Thus I enrolled in a 6-month university module. The course progressed but could never really keep me interested. I read through the textbook once, then stashed it away. I’m well educated and take studying seriously, but not this BS module.

So, the setting is Stellenbosch (South Africa), two hours before my Psychology final exam at 7 pm. I leave my apartment at around 5 pm to get some fresh air and a smoothie while doing an approach or two.

At 5h15pm, I notice this cute younger girl (early 20s) wearing short pants, short hair, strolling behind me. So I turn around and go direct: Hey you look cute. We start talking, and I find out she is from the U.K. I tell her my exam is at 7 pm. I have some free time, and I want her to join me for a smoothie. She probably finds this intriguing, so she comes along.

I treat the instant date like a regular date, while we each pay for our own smoothie. Then I take her on a short sight-seeing walk. Next, we get a beer at a bar across the road from my apartment. Here I make out with her. To save time, I ask her to stuff the beer in her handbag so that we can finish it off in my apartment. With less than 45 minutes left to my exam, I take her to my flat.

Short on time, we immediately start kissing once inside. Clothes fly off, but she’s bleeding heavily from her period. Thus she decides to go down on me, instead of letting me put on a condom. Perfect naked body. Cute Face. We cuddle like this until 6h45pm. I have to be at the exam room 20 to 30 minutes before the exam. So I ask her to get dressed, and we leave. At 6h50pm I start the engine of the vehicle. Next, we drive out into town and I drop her off at her hotel while rushing to the exam venue. I find parking at 7 pm, and around 7h05pm I am seated in the exam room. I’m five minutes late for the exam, but luckily they only close the doors at around 7h15pm.

Lesson: Have interesting things going on in your life, to help draw in women into your reality. This also lowers the number of approaches you need before you see results.

Conclusion

In conclusion, treat your cold approaches more like an exam. I don’t have to be a psychologist to tell you that your results will improve. Monitor and quantify your progress weekly. At the same time, you don’t want to screw up your studies or career due to continuously chasing women. Attract, Don’t Chase.

What do you feel is the ideal cold approach ratio and how far would you go to play a numbers game? Comment below with questions or tips for other Seducers.