The Nice Guy’s Guide for Older Men (Who Want to Date Younger Women)

So at some point, you reach your mid-30s, then you realize that things aren’t the same as it used to be when you were in your mid-20s. Back then you would go to the bar where the 20-year-old girls party, and you would have a good time. But as you get older, it’s nice to sometimes meet and socialize with women of your own age. Another thing is you have to work harder in the gym to look sharp. What are the other factors to take into account if you’re an older man interested in dating younger women?

Inner game

As always you need to keep a positive mindset. Internalize these beliefs:

  • I can date any age girl I want to date (of course at least 18 or 19)
  • I’m a better option than the guys in their early 20s
  • I’m in such good shape that I look better than the younger guys
  • Younger women find me extremely attractive
  • Age is a mental state. I am as old as I feel.
  • I’m smooth, seductive, sexy, and high value – whatever my age is.
  • The question is not “if that 20-year-old girl likes me”. I’m the prize. Do I like her?

 

Outer Game

 

Your Physical appearance

A few months ago I went to a seduction seminar. I noticed that 9 out of the 10 speakers were ripped physically. It’s no coincidence that specifically these low body-fat dudes, were the speakers at the seminar. The PUA coaches know what works and what doesn’t work.

As you get older you have to be a little obsessive about fitness. By staying fit, you can keep up with younger guys with faster metabolisms. It helps you look better (and even has sexual performance benefits).

Furthermore, dress suitable to your environment, e.g. as mentioned in the well-dressed post, don’t dress too formal in a chilled environment with students in early 20s.

More years = more confidence

With age, you gradually become smarter with business, more mature, more stable, and more likely to be better aligned to a career you enjoy. Your social skills and confidence also improve.

Benefits of Younger Wings

Feel free to game with guys in their early 20s. Here is why:

  • It’ll help you relate with younger girls better, and have younger girlfriends.
  • helps you stay young at heart while being more mature at the same time.
  • they set the standard higher for being fit and physically active.

 

Benefits of Older Wings

 

  • They are financially more stable, you can e.g. go to better clubs.
  • They are more experienced, and thus you can learn life (or social) skills from them.
  • As old age and death slowly creeps closer, your confidence, self-esteem and maturity grows. Which are good traits to associate with.

 

Dating Younger Women Techniques

Most coaches would tell you that you have to exaggerate the supposed negative to disarm her. For example, tell the girl, “yeah I’m a grandpa compared to you“. You can play around with this, but if you don’t hit the sweet spot with your humor then it won’t get you anywhere. It’s best to assume your age is no problem and that its cool, then the girl is also less likely to feel that it is a problem. If you make yourself as attractive as possible, then that’ll help a lot as well.

If She Asks your Age

Often if the girl asks you what’s your age, it can mean there is some doubt in her mind whether she wants to date you. I let her guess my age. It’s more fun to let her work for the answer, instead of handing out my personal details freely.

If a girl never asks your age, then she’s potentially very attracted to you. She is as much concerned about you judging her for being too young, as much as she could judge you for being “too old”. Age goes both ways – it can be as much a good thing as a bad thing.

So it’s better to hold the frame that you’re the right age, but is she old or mature enough for you? That is the real question.

How old are you?

In the day it’s better to give a straight answer to what is your age. But in the night when you’re flirting and having fun in a nightclub, Alex Social (from 4 Week Natural) has the recommendation to tease-flirt that you’re 29.999. Even if you are e.g. 33. Of course, say this playfully. Don’t go and seriously lie about your age. But if she knows you’re being playful, then its simply a fun tease.

Cocky and Funny worked in the 90s, and it still works today. Thus you can also respond with something like: “I’m old enough to be your father, what are you doing out this late?”
(Not my line, will post link if I remember where I got this from)

Case Study: Clubbing with Younger Girls

In a student town, when I went out on my own to the clubs, I wasn’t really bringing enough fun. But, while going out with a wing of my own age, I was more relaxed, chilled, and more outcome-independent. The main goal was to have a good time with a male friend. While if you are out on your own, the main goal can sometimes be: I want to get laid tonight. Which goal do you think is going to get you the best results?

Obviously having fun while going out is much more attractive. So you definitely have to catch yourself whenever you have the negative “sex-starved hookup mindset”. You can definitely still party and go out on your own (sarging solo), but do so with the “fun social mindset”. Taking a girl home will then be a side-effect of your good mindset. And not the purpose of going out.

So, in between talking and chilling with my wing, I had more “bullet-time” to notice the IOIs from girls, take them to the dance floor. And then kiss while dancing.

Plus, I had social proof, and the girls noticed I was talking with my wing, having fun, being social. So I come across as the social and attractive guy. Thus they would dance when I asked them. Next, I start making out with one of the girls on the dance-floor. Then I move her away to the balcony, and somehow my hands slip into her pants, with her approval, in a dark corner.

During the same night, I made sure that my wing also had success, with another younger girl. Did age matter at all? In no way whatsoever.

Socializing and having fun is the main goal of going out. Getting laid is only a bonus. Thus, when you’re out with a good friend or wing (or a new acquaintance), age matters almost nothing. Since the “fun” will be there with you, you’ll attract fun girls.

If you’re dressed well and you make yourself good-looking, plus you are social, then you can easily be a better option than a lot of the younger guys around.

Where you Game

Although this post is about meeting younger women, sometimes it is nicer gaming with people of your own age at a club where the age is 25+. If their age is closer to yours, you’ll automatically experience everyone else as friendlier, and more open to conversation. You have more commonalities and you’re more relate-able. Thus, even if you go out alone to a club like this, you’ll hook women easily, make friends quickly, and have a good time. As mentioned above, you are more likely to pull if you have a great time anyway.

Role Reversal

Often, you reject younger girls as well, e.g. if shes too chubby, or not your type. So in those cases, age wasn’t everything. You didn’t wanna jump her pants simply because she was young. In the same way, girls don’t simply want to hook up with a guy simply because he is young. There is something more at play.

If you pull BEING ATTRACTIVE better off than a 20-year-old guy, then you can be the better dating option for the younger girl. In the same way, if you are 35, then a sexy, physically active 40-year-old female gymnastic teacher is probably a better dating option than a 19-year-old overweight girl.

Does age matter in this case? No.

If you reject yourself with a younger girl because you thought she wouldn’t date a guy in his 30s, then next time around you might see her with another bloke in his 40s. Focus on what you can control: Your skill in seduction, and your fitness level (thus appearance).

Truth is Out There

I’ve seen many girls in their early 20s dating guys in their 40s. A small percentage of these guys are rich, and drive the most expensive vehicles, but definitely not all of them. Some simply are fit, potentially with nice careers, while also looking young. So if they can, you can too. A man gets better with age like a good wine that matures. You gain self-knowledge and confidence, which younger girls may have a hard time finding in guys her own age.

Benefits From the Female Viewpoint

A lot of female blogs will explain to you that even women themselves see a lot of advantages to dating older men, who are generally more confident than younger guys. Plus, due to the implications of pregnancy and raising kids, women generally want relationships more eagerly than men do. For that purpose, older men are perfectly suitable since they are more likely to settle down with her, and look after the kids.

In some countries like Bolivia, the young girls look for an older guy to marry because the young guys will cheat on her, make her pregnant and leave her with the kid. While with a stable old man she’ll have a better family life. So even if you’re not in the best shape and have a hard time dating younger women in your own country, in other places you’ll score extra points simply for being older.

Conclusion

To conclude, she’s not looking for you to act like someone in your early 20s. Be the strong older guy, sexually dominant, leading the interaction, and confident. Which is what younger guys (mostly outside of the seduction industry) often are not. Also, speak with the confident voice tone. Own your age. Embrace it, it gives you an edge. Love and Accept yourself for who you are. (Through being high Self-Esteem).

What is your view on older men dating younger women? Do you have any tips or questions? Comment below!

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8 thoughts on “The Nice Guy’s Guide for Older Men (Who Want to Date Younger Women)”

  1. Ha ha! 30s are a golden ticket to women 18-80. Try this crap at 45 after your hair’s gone, cutting calories burns more muscle than fat, and you don’t fit in where 30-somethings socialize.
    You’ll be begging 40+ women for a shot through crappy online dating apps.

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    • Thanks for the comment. In my own life, 30s has been the best decade thus far. I agree, 30s is definitely still a relatively young age for a man. All in all, the quicker a man starts learning seduction, while keeping a reasonably attractive appearance, the better. Plus, these skills can last into the 40s and 50+

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  2. I’m 56, but I’ve been into extreme fitness since I was 14 and have always eaten healthy food and exercised.
    I have absolutely NO problem reeling in hot 18-25 year old women in Colombia and the Dominican Republic and have been doing it for years.
    I do speak, read and write Spanish with native fluency and that has to help without a doubt.
    Get in shape or stay there if you already are, become bilingual and you WILL have success in these Latin American countries.

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    • Thanks for the inspiring comment. If you are 56, and healthier plus fitter than a guy who is 26, then it is right that the girl should pick you instead of the younger guy who eats e.g. junkfood and never exercises.

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  3. I just started to date a girl 24 and I am 57 but people say I am handsome LOL!! And I perceive a lot of younger woman look at me and I don’t possess much money neither a profession but I educated myself and can hold a conversation of just about any topic.

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  4. I’m 67….in shitty shape have a hard time getting a hard on….but I do augment their income with about $150/week…and have em stay over 3 nights a week….
    Is that prostitución…?

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    • When I’m 67 with a younger wife / girlfriends, I’ll spoil ’em a little. But I don’t wanna outright give them cash, unless its the situation below.

      On my side I’m very into fitness, and God willing, I’ll still be fit @ 67.

      But each to his own.

      It’s true that many husbands give a weekly allowance to their wives. For example, he earns money at his job, and the wife is the home-maker, also taking care of his kids etc. Thus it would be weird not giving her some kind of financial weekly / monthly allowance.

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