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The Party Sober Method
You can have an awesome time clubbing without touching alcohol. The method is to get into a “social state” by being friendly and talkative to everyone. Once you are in social state the need for alcohol falls away. You got socially lubricated without the social lubricant.
Truthfully, it doesn’t really matter whether you drink or not when you’re out. People are too self-conscious about themselves to care. You can easily take a girl you meet in a club home with you, even if you are not drinking. Simply refuse every time the girl asks you to have a drink with her. If she likes you enough, she genuinely wouldn’t care if you drink with her or if you only dance with her. She might find it unusual but so what. It’s a mindset that “I’m enough as I am”, and I don’t need alcohol. If you can own the mindset, you can nail this.
First Unstifle
At first, you have to unstifle. Start small talk with a stranger. You can fake asking advice if that’s the only thing you can think of. For example ask someone the time, directions, or club recommendations. After the first approach, you’ll feel more at ease. This effect is compounded with every subsequent approach. This way you can eventually end up with a socially extroverted high, where you immediately speak whatever comes to your mind. This type of spontaneity helps improve your wit and charm. You basically lower your conversational filter. Inevitably some guys or girls around you will make the conclusion that you’re on cocaine or inebriated. If this happens, congratulate yourself. You’ve learned how to party sober.
Back when I took my first night-game Bootcamp, I was taught to keep a glass of water in my hand while clubbing to avoid dehydration. Moreover, this helps keep your mind off the alcohol, and you keep your state once you reach it.
Obstacles to learning this way of partying are friends who will put pressure on you to drink with them. If you lose these friends eventually, it’s for the best. Once you learn how to get into social state and make new friends all around you, you won’t need them anymore. In any case, most people won’t mind what you drink, as long as you are reasonably socially confident and talkative, which is behavior that can be learned by anyone. Neither does the opposite sex care if your drunk on alcohol or drunk on life. When you reach the point where you feel “drunk on life” during your night out, you will know. In addition, it’s a replacement for the next day’s hangover. As you’ll feel drunk on life instead. This is the “holy grail” of partying.
The Hypnosis Comedy Show
It’s like the hypnosis comedy show where the hypnotist hypnotizes a subject to act drunk. They’re still stone cold sober, but their mental filter is one of “playing the role of the drunk guy”. Although, in effect you can implement any mental filter you choose – like an actor deciding which role to play that night. Will you be the sexy guy, the genuinely drunk guy, the shy guy or the cool guy. Everything is a role we play and it’s all by choice – subconsciously or consciously.
We’ve convinced ourselves that we have to drink to get socially lubricated when this is not necessary. The only requirement is that you focus on attaining social state through social momentum instead of using alcohol as a crutch to enjoy yourself socially.
The belief that you need to drink to feel good, is simply repetitive media brainwashing. This includes alcohol advertising – which should be banned. Through the media, the subconscious mind gets repetitively “programmed” to believe you need alcohol to enjoy your night out. It’s so persistent, that it’s hard to de-brainwash. It’s like Stockholm Syndrome where the victim of media brainwashing will defend the media due to the extent of the brain trauma experienced.
Alcohol has no health or social benefits. If you are inhibited, then address your emotional inhibition or your sexual prudishness instead of trying to destroy it from the outside with alcohol. One way to help you overcome your inhibitions is to seek out mentorships and coaching from Nice Guy Seduction.
More Benefits of Sober Socializing
Never regret the girl you went home with the next day
Almost all heavy drinkers have their stories of banging an unattractive girl after getting drunk in a club. The next morning they wake up and she’s not as hot as you thought when you were busy poisoning your liver last night. In that case, you end up with regrets of sleeping with the wrong girl. More importantly, you miss out having a sexual relationship with the right girl. If you don’t get drunk, you’ll never regret who you went home with.
Many negative health effects to alcohol abuse
Liver cirrhosis is a huge problem for alcoholics. Moreover, every time you drink alcohol, which has zero nutritional benefits apart from raising your calorie count for the day, you could have detoxed by drinking mineral water instead. Or you could have taken a wheatgrass shot instead of a 40%+ shot of piss made by some alcohol company. In addition, alcohol inhibits absorption of vitamins and minerals in your diet.
Although one or even two glasses of wine is OK, you gotta know when to stop drinking.
Learn Mind over Matter
If you wanna be “plugged in” to the matrix, keep on getting drunk. On the other hand, if you want to learn mind over matter, you got to quit heavy drinking.
Although alcoholism and cocaine are mainstream, society doesn’t want you to be at cause in life. If you drink, you are at “effect”, and they are at cause and pulling the strings. Moreover, the way alcohol affects you emotionally is it will negatively impact your meditation and thought-processes. It leads to a more instinctual, reactive existence – often destructive.
Can go out more often if you don’t drink
You won’t need a day-off in-between to recover from last night’s mistakes. Furthermore, you’ll barely spend any money when you’re out, and you’re likely to balance your career and partying better.
The Not-So-Tragic Lost Friendships with Alcoholics or Drug Addicts
The negative to this way of partying is you’re gonna lose a few friendships with alcoholics or drug addicts. Don’t sweat it. You’re much more awesome than they are.
The media-bullies brainwash us to believe that the cool guys are the alcoholics or the drug addicts. Total disinformation. Its kinda also the reason why women feel that “allure of the badboy”. Girls can’t resist the badboy because it’s how they are raised through perpetual media brainwashing. “This is the type of guy you should fall for” is what the media pounds into her brain, like a jackhammer pounding the sidewalk. That hot, cute, popular girl on that TV-show fell for the drug addict, so I should too.
It’s the same for male friendships. That alcoholic who can down 70 beer shots in one hour is the most popular guy because that’s how we are conditioned to think by our not-so-benign society. What if I told you that guy who downs 70 beer shots an hour in an attempt to prove his masculinity is a deranged lunatic. This is the opposite of what the media tells you. If you ever point this out, you may get shamed and bullied for your lucidity.
So, the most awesome guys in your seduction lair are the almost “straight edge” guys. Confident without hard drugs or alcoholism. Flip the script – you have to undo the media brainwashing.
Party Sober Conclusion
In conclusion, you can get a drug like high simply by learning to party sober. You’ll also get better results with women if you get into “state”. Once you are in state, you are free from outcome, and perceived as more attractive by the opposite sex. You are at cause, you are the life of the party and not hovering around looking for other people’s good vibes.
To re-enforce what you’ve learned in this post, go out with a wingman and do a lot of approaches. After an hour or 2, if you managed to get out of your head, you’ll feel the exact same emotional high that alcohol or drugs can give you. Being extroverted can be a drug by itself… use it carefully.
How do you feel about partying sober? Have you ever been the only sober person at a party? Post your tips and comments below for doing it sober.